you know what you need to do? stop caring what other people think. find ways to practice this and your life will be so much better in every aspect. you cant please everyone, it is your life, they either realize this and love you for who you are, or they are assholes and not worth your time
sithlordsunny asked: I'm still having doubts on whether I should get into lolita or not, my friends are cool w/ it, but my sister thinks it's too weird; I'm afraid of what my dad will say...
We certainly do not do this for the attention of men. Frequently, female sexuality is portrayed in a way that is palatable and accessible to men, and anything outside of that is intimidating. Something so unabashedly female is ultimately kind of scary – in fact, I consider it to be pretty confrontational. Dressing this way takes a certain kind of ownership of one’s own sexuality that wearing expected or regular things just does not. It doesn’t take a lot of moxie to put on a pencil skirt and flats. It’s not, as some commentators have suggested, some sort of appeal to men’s expectation that women should be childlike, or an attempt to pander to pedophiles. Pedophiles like little girls. They don’t like grown women who happen to like dresses with cakes on them. I’ve never been hit on by a pedophile while in Lolita. We don’t get into it because it is some sort of misplaced pedo complex or anything, and the objective isn’t simply to emulate little girls, despite the name Lolita. Unknown (via alicekitty)